Voices in Your Head

I think that everyone has had someone or more likely more than one someone who has said negative things about them. And often those negative voices move into our head and stay for a long time. And they talk to us.

Last Easter Sunday our minister, Rev. Jenn, spoke about rising above negative affirmations that we have been told or that have been told about us during our life.

Some examples she used are:

·        He’s a loser

·        He’s a nobody

·        He breaks the rules

·        He’s not Jewish enough

She pointed out how we can rise above these negative affirmations and become our own strong person. We can be a wayshower and unlock our true potential.

She referenced the Nike commercial for Super Bowl that ends with “You can’t win. So, WIN.” I’ll admit I had to look up this commercial, but it certainly made the point of not letting negative affirmations control your wins.

I’m sure that most of us grew up hearing people say things about us that we ended up believing and that influenced our lives.

Some that I grew up with were:

·        You can’t do that – you’re a girl

·        You’re a klutz

·        You’re not attractive

·        You’re not artistic

I think I was in my 40s before I started doubting these voices in my head.

As I work with my clients, many of whom deal with ADHD and/or Chronic Disorganization, they often share their inner voices.

I hear from them:

·        I can’t believe some of the stupid things I do- I’m so stupid

·        I never complete anything – I must be lazy

·        I’m not like other people – I think I must be crazy

·        No one else has these problems

As I work with my clients to help them organize their spaces and clear out clutter, we also work with the clutter in their head. I point out their strengths. I remind them of their progress. I let them know that they are not alone with their struggles. I give them permission to do what is right for their uniqueness.

The point I am trying to make is that if you hear voices in your head that are saying negative things or are making you feel sad and unimportant, question those voices. Where did they come from?

Show those voices that they are wrong.

Rise and win!

If you are ready to work on any organizational project that will allow you to mark something off your list and want some tips, encouragement, or accountability for that project, join Diane Quintana and me in our Clear Space For You virtual clutter support group. The group will offer ideas, support, and gentle accountability for working on developing plans or projects.

Jonda S. Beattie, Professional Organizer owner of Time Space Organization, and co-owner of Release, Repurpose, Reorganize. She is based in the Metro-Atlanta area. As presenter, award-winning author, as well as a retired special education teacher she uses her listening skills, problem solving skills, knowledge of different learning techniques, ADHD specialty, and paper management skills to help clients.